Nicole Robichaud, a lawyer and caregiver in Ottawa, shares her experience with a cherished family tradition that has evolved over the years. Nearly three decades ago, a folk art calendar became a recurring Christmas gift in their household, though the origins of the calendar’s first appearance have faded from memory. The vibrant paintings in the calendar always captivated her mother, becoming a beloved part of their holiday celebrations in Toronto.
In 2015, at 68, her mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, having witnessed the disease’s effects while caring for her own father years earlier. Despite the challenges of memory loss and declining health, her mother maintained a positive outlook initially. Over time, as the disease progressed, the family relocated to Ottawa, eventually settling in a memory care facility. Despite her mother’s diminishing ability to engage with the calendar or even recognize its contents, Nicole continued the tradition each year.
As her mother’s condition worsened, Nicole found solace in the familiarity of the calendar, using it as a focal point during visits. The act of turning the pages, describing the artwork, and reminiscing about past admiration became a way to connect with her mother, even in moments of profound silence and disconnection. While verbal communication faded, the tradition of gifting the calendar remained a constant reminder of their shared history and the enduring love behind the gesture.
In the face of the heartbreaking realities of Alzheimer’s, the calendar symbolized a deeper connection beyond the physical realm for Nicole. It represented a form of spiritual expression, offering comfort, purpose, and a sense of continuity amidst the challenges of the disease. Through this simple tradition, Nicole found a way to convey her unwavering love and commitment to her mother, hoping to create a warm and familiar environment that transcends the limitations imposed by the illness. Each year, as she purchases the calendar anew, Nicole embraces the opportunity to honor their shared past and look towards the future with hope and resilience.
